Monday, October 12th, 2009 at 9:04 am
Understanding your choices is essential in managing conflict. And, yes, there is always more than one choice! You just have to decide what consequence you will live with. This helps you resolve your own inner conflict. And just as important is the strategy of providing choices for others when you are in conflict.
The narrowing of choice is not motivating. It is the expansion of choice or the opportunity to decide that motivates an individual to go beyond feeling victimized. And in businesses or organizations, it allows an individual to go beyond minimal competence. Read More
Tuesday, October 6th, 2009 at 9:08 pm
Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew: 5:23-25)
Managing conflict and finding reconciliation sometimes means admitting you are wrong or acknowledging that you have hurt or harmed some other part of life. This verse of Scripture simply and lovingly instructs us about what is most important. We may be seeking to get right with God – the Spirit of God that is somehow much higher than where we are. And this ignores the principle that God is present everywhere – and standing by everyone, if they will just choose it. Read More
Friday, October 2nd, 2009 at 3:50 pm
The biggest obstacle to effective conflict management may just be your own history! You and the others in your relationships all have a past when it comes to communicating, building relationships and managing conflicts.
Your patterns of behavior are built on your perceptions of what is happening to you and how others are relating to you. And most of us have our own best interests in mind when we are negotiating our way through expectations that are not being met. This colors how we see others and what we project onto them when we sense those contrasts and tangled energies that we call conflict. Read More
Thursday, September 24th, 2009 at 3:37 pm
Is your Spiritual Resume up to date? Are you a disciple of some faith? What is the Truth that you bear witness to through your faith? By definition, a disciple of Christ is always stepping up spiritually by bearing witness to Jesus the Christ. Being a disciple need not mean that you throw off all your earthly occupations or do away with all other endeavors in life. However, if you are a disciple, it generally means that you regard the spiritual work that you do in Jesus’ name, his Spirit and his teaching as the overriding and pervading goal.
A practical way to express it is that this sense of alignment with Spirit is the glue that holds the parts of the chair together. The glue of Spirit also helps us prioritize so that we do the things that matter most during our current short mortal existence. Read More
Thursday, January 29th, 2009 at 11:30 am
Most of us grow up conditioned to believe that conflict is bad. That is a myth! And it’s a pretty destructive myth because it places all of us in a position of being bad in some way because we are in conflict within ourselves or we experience conflict with others.
Truthfully, being in conflict is as easy as falling off a log! With a little shift in perception and some help in understanding the true nature of conflict, we can walk the log skillfully, with balance and reach our destination on the other side.
Some say that conflict is not good or bad – it just is! It is opportunity staring you straight in the face. Read More