Saturday, July 24th, 2010 at 7:37 pm
Free eBook from Institute of HeartMath
Institute of HeartMath has a free eBook, State of Ease, for downloading that I have found full of helpful information. Add one more tool to your conflict resolution library.
Your can download the color State of Ease PDF or black and white PDF from HeartPeaceNow.com or directly from the HeartMath website.
There is a “state of ease” that each of us can access to help release emotional turbulence and help maintain coherent alignment between our heart, mind and emotions. Learning to access our personal space of “inner-ease” can be done with minimum practice and in just a little time. When operating in an ease-mode, it’s easier to choose less stressful perceptions and attitudes and re-create “flow” in our daily routines.
Please enjoy this free eBook and HeartMath is encouraging any who likes it to share it with others, so please feel free to post a link to this page!
Wednesday, October 14th, 2009 at 6:17 pm
There are so many positive strategies and processes to use in managing conflict effectively. And sometimes it’s very important to know how to avoid the pitfalls.
You will enhance your success in finding heart peace if you stay aware of the energies that are the indicators and outcomes of conflict. These energies begin with small contrasts that come from mismatched expectations among people. And there are some mistakes you can avoid making if you know about them before they come up. Read More »
Monday, October 12th, 2009 at 9:04 am
Understanding your choices is essential in managing conflict. And, yes, there is always more than one choice! You just have to decide what consequence you will live with. This helps you resolve your own inner conflict. And just as important is the strategy of providing choices for others when you are in conflict.
The narrowing of choice is not motivating. It is the expansion of choice or the opportunity to decide that motivates an individual to go beyond feeling victimized. And in businesses or organizations, it allows an individual to go beyond minimal competence. Read More »
Tuesday, October 6th, 2009 at 9:08 pm
Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew: 5:23-25)
Managing conflict and finding reconciliation sometimes means admitting you are wrong or acknowledging that you have hurt or harmed some other part of life. This verse of Scripture simply and lovingly instructs us about what is most important. We may be seeking to get right with God – the Spirit of God that is somehow much higher than where we are. And this ignores the principle that God is present everywhere – and standing by everyone, if they will just choose it. Read More »
Friday, October 2nd, 2009 at 3:50 pm
The biggest obstacle to effective conflict management may just be your own history! You and the others in your relationships all have a past when it comes to communicating, building relationships and managing conflicts.
Your patterns of behavior are built on your perceptions of what is happening to you and how others are relating to you. And most of us have our own best interests in mind when we are negotiating our way through expectations that are not being met. This colors how we see others and what we project onto them when we sense those contrasts and tangled energies that we call conflict. Read More »
Thursday, September 24th, 2009 at 3:37 pm
Is your Spiritual Resume up to date? Are you a disciple of some faith? What is the Truth that you bear witness to through your faith? By definition, a disciple of Christ is always stepping up spiritually by bearing witness to Jesus the Christ. Being a disciple need not mean that you throw off all your earthly occupations or do away with all other endeavors in life. However, if you are a disciple, it generally means that you regard the spiritual work that you do in Jesus’ name, his Spirit and his teaching as the overriding and pervading goal.
A practical way to express it is that this sense of alignment with Spirit is the glue that holds the parts of the chair together. The glue of Spirit also helps us prioritize so that we do the things that matter most during our current short mortal existence. Read More »
Monday, September 7th, 2009 at 10:29 am
Stepping Up Spiritually is a basic element of being on any Path of expanded consciousness.
It is really for each of us to interpret what being my brother’s keeper means in our daily lives.
Fortunately, it is one of those phrases that needs little in the way of basic explanation. It is
the unexpected events in life that provide opportunity for us to truly put it to work. Tomorrow,
a neighbor may fall down the steps and need physical assistance. Hurrying on the way to work,
you may encounter a small child all alone and crying, and this may require you to take charge – to
move into action on behalf of someone else.
Maybe you notice a friend or family member who is behaving differently than normal, someone who is
withdrawn or depressed. If they are not making a fuss that you need to deal with, will you ignore
the change of behavior or will you care – ask – and listen?
To take action and be your brother’s keeper, you must feel something. You have a certain level of
empathy for the plight of others and you have the courage to act on it. Read More »
Friday, August 21st, 2009 at 5:53 pm
Conflict happens in relationships. And the tension it brings is opportunity knocking at the door.
We actually learn more by listening than we do by talking! When we are experiencing contrast or conflict with others, we are usually trying our best to persuade them to our point of view. And that means we just keep talking – hoping the others will see the light of our position.
What happens if you shift your strategy and start listening – really listening? There are many benefits for you if you will apply this one very important communication tool in resolving conflicts. Read More »
Friday, January 30th, 2009 at 11:57 am
Economic times are bad! Finances are tight! I can’t afford to carry these people! Sound familiar? If you add your energy to this choir of voices in conflict, you are actually creating a reality that you don’t want! How DO you deal with conflict and financial realities without adding your “energy” to a downward spiral?
When change happens – like tight money – loss – unexpected events – don’t you tend to contract, restrict, reserve, withdraw and withhold resources? Wait a minute! Take a deep breath and look around you. The greatest resource you have is the people around you – employees, clients, family and friends.
When budgets get tight, stress increases, conflict escalates and relationships suffer. How do we resolve these tensions? Read More »
Thursday, January 29th, 2009 at 11:30 am
Most of us grow up conditioned to believe that conflict is bad. That is a myth! And it’s a pretty destructive myth because it places all of us in a position of being bad in some way because we are in conflict within ourselves or we experience conflict with others.
Truthfully, being in conflict is as easy as falling off a log! With a little shift in perception and some help in understanding the true nature of conflict, we can walk the log skillfully, with balance and reach our destination on the other side.
Some say that conflict is not good or bad – it just is! It is opportunity staring you straight in the face. Read More »